How often have you sat through a meeting where your boss speaks in high-level, abstract statements that are dangerously vague, like "becoming the uncontested leader," "providing a 360 solution tailored for the client's needs ", "driving strategic synergies across departments," or "helping employees thrive in a safe work environment." You can feel that there is a clear expectation behind it, but what exactly?
As experts in our fields, we often deal with complex matters requiring nuanced understanding. When we try to capture this complexity in a short sentence, we often render it impossible to grasp. To us, the message makes perfect sense. It's born out of countless hours of thinking, meetings, and analysis. But to a team member who hasn't been a part of those in-depth conversations or to an audience who isn't immersed in our field, what does it actually mean?
Here, we'll explore how using specific, concrete language can bridge this gap and drastically enhance understanding within your team.
The Tale of the Clappers and Listeners
In 1990, Stanford University student Elizabeth Newton conducted a simple yet profound study. Some participants were asked to clap the rhythm of well-known songs, while others tried to guess the song.
How often do you think listeners will guess the song "Happy Birthday" when clapping it? The participants estimated a 50% success rate.
The catch? The guessers only get it right 2.5% of the time, or 1 out of 40 (instead of 1 out of 2 as predicted). This experiment beautifully illustrates the "curse of knowledge," the all-too-common difficulty of sharing our knowledge effectively because we can't readily re-create our listener's state of mind.
So why is it? In short, you cannot clap a song without having it playing in your head, so, for you, it is obvious which song it is, and equally evident that the other person will get it. How could they not, as it is so basic and such a well-known song? Try it with some friends, and you'll see how frustrating it is to see the sheepish expression on your friend's face as you clap a super-well-known song like "Happy Birthday"??
Tip 1: The Power of Simplicity
Sometimes it's hard to communicate effectively because we struggle to find the right words. We might think using complex language makes us sound smart, but it can, in fact, make our listeners feel disconnected. The best way to solve this problem is to use simple language that anyone can understand, even a fifth-grader.
Tip 2: Painting Vivid Pictures with Stories
Stories, not dry bullet points or jargon-filled explanations, are the essence of memorable communication. An engaging narrative uniquely resonates on a human level, making your message tangible and sticky.
Tip 3: Mastering Presentation Techniques
Remember, the way you deliver your message can be just as important as the content itself. Your voice, pace, and body language all play crucial roles in making your key messages stick. They set the tone, underline important points, and can either captivate or disengage your audience.
Tip 4: Validating That Your Message Hit Home
Finally, after you've crafted and delivered your message, how do you confirm it was understood as intended? It's like the tapper in Newton's experiment: you need to ask your listener to name the tune back.
You can ask your audience, "What were your main takeaways?" or "Can you give me a real-life example that reflects my point?" and instruct them to find answers that were not directly in your talk, avoid using your words. This feedback loop is crucial for refining your communication skills and ensuring you've broken the 'curse of knowledge.'
To wrap up, effective communication and presentation ensure your message is heard, deeply understood, and remembered. Have you ever found yourself as a "clapper" or a "listener"?
How have you used voice, pace, or body language to enhance your communication? Share your experiences and insights, and let's keep this enlightening conversation going.
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